I've just realised this week that to have the ability to do many things is a great privilege.
We're all very busy with the demands and responsibilities that modern life, and life in a city entails, I've written about it a couple of times over the last few months. However, I don't think we realise that our 'places to be and people to meet' approach inevitably implies that we have the ability to handle that which comes with this package - demands on our time and energy on the one hand, but opportunities to grow, learn and develop on the other hand. And moreover, the ability to choose what we want to be involved with and what we can offer.
It is true that the power is not always in our hands, in terms of the choices mentioned above. But it's also true that, more often than not - the power is in our hands. We can decide whether we want to attend that concertina performance our friends invited us to, or the weekly dinner date with that family member that still call you 'Jemma' instead of 'Patricia' after you've been married for eight years!
I'll agree that it's not easy to say no and to turn down invitations to events where we think our attendance is expected , but I also know that it's very necessary to do that sometimes - I even have a sense of 'liberation' when I do manage to just say no!
Choices imply that one has to decide for or against a certain option - and that implies that we have the ability to think, to ask, to explore. That is something to be grateful for.